Showing posts with label My Unsolicited Opinion. Show all posts
Showing posts with label My Unsolicited Opinion. Show all posts

1.12.2009

The Unspoken Critique

I was speaking to my good friend M this weekend and we hit upon a topic that got me thinking. As girls we are very hesitant to ever divulge our true feelings about our friends' significant others. You never want to be the one to say,"dump him" or "he's not good enough for you." If you do, that friend probably won't take your advice and then there will be this awkwardness between the two of you and you'll regret opening your trap.

This seems to be something that has been instilled in women from an early age. I know I've very rarely gotten a friend's true feeling about a boyfriend until I'm out of the relationship.

I've seen my friends date a lot of different guys, and even marry a few of them. I often think that they're settling for less than they deserve. But true to girl code, I never speak up. So here's a post for my girlfriends. This is what I think of your current man or have thought of your past men. If you think one is about you, it probably is. If you're offended by one, it probably isn't about you....

  • You're more attractive than him
  • He has short man syndrome
  • You seem to take all of the chances and make all of the sacrifices while he makes none
  • I heard he cheated on you
  • I heard you cheated on him
  • You're unique, he isn't
  • His friends are pretentious
  • He's an alcoholic
  • It's called emotional abuse. Abuse doesn't always mean physical violence
  • You're perfect as you are and anyone that tells you to lose weight is a fool
  • He's not funny
  • He doesn't think I'm funny
  • He's using you
  • Please don't marry him just because you want a wedding
  • You're not as interesting around him. Are you dumbing yourself down for him? Stop. Stop now.
  • Stop letting him tell you how to do your hair
  • You don't really love him
  • Did I mention that you're much more attractive than he is?
  • He isn't nice to your friends
  • He'll never go anywhere
  • Your codependence scares me
  • He doesn't give you butterflies
  • He doesn't challenge you
You can do better.

Much love to my friends. Now you know what I really think. Someday I'll follow my own advice.